At a time when everyone is talking about legalising same sex marriages, don't you think there are still problems to be resolved in opposite sex marriages in India. If anyone thinks that we, in India, have got complete freedom to marry a person of opposite sex, then I can firmly say that he/she is dreaming. I urge them to come to reality.
When I say freedom, I'm not talking about the freedom law gave it to us. I was referring to the freedom to express one's feelings, freedom to fall in love with anything and freedom to fight against irrational concepts of the society. Though legally you are free to do all these things, you are never allowed to listen to your heart thanks to the society we are living in. We are living in the world where you can never talk about your feelings for a person of opposite sex to your parents. It's a taboo. Thanks to urbanisation and westernisation, very few families have developed that culture of openly discussing everyone's views and arriving at logical decisions. I have seen people celebrating when their parents accept their relationships. Have we not come out of that age where parents accepting your partner is a thing to celebrate yet?
Coming back to the case of same sex marriages, the argument is that because of some changes in their hormones, they never get attracted to a person of opposite sex which is very similar to the case of a straight man never getting attracted to another man. If you want to understand a gay's feelings when society forces him to marry a girl, just imagine asking a straight girl to marry another girl. In both the cases, there is no difference in the magnitude of mental pain felt. Here the question is not about same sex or opposite sex. It's all about a person's own choice of life partner. The bottom line to be understood is that a person, either straight or LGBT, feels the same dejection when not allowed to live with a person of one's own choice.
So, legalising is never a solution for a problem until each and every person understands the real reason behind it. There are plenty of examples for it. Corruption is rampant in India though it's illegal and honour killings are not a history yet even though marrying a person of other caste is legal in India. Tomorrow LGBTs will still be persecuted even after legalising same sex marriages. Until change comes from within people, enforcing it on an entire nation is impossible even for the supreme court. After all, no one wants to listen to anyone.
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